What kind of parents are sociopaths

This might seem like a shocking statement but sadly, it's happening as we speak. How do parents turn their child into a sociopath? There are six parenting traps that together, will bring out the very worst in any child. Parenting traps are behaviours that seem "nice" on the surface, so parents think they're "good" for their children.

They're actually very bad for them. Parents can think that limits are "mean" or that they prevent their child from expressing themselves authentically. Neither of these things are true. It's far more kind to let a child know what's expected of them and what's unacceptable than to allow the child to get into trouble down the road, because of their ignorance. They fail to give the child any meaningful consequences for these bad attitudes and behaviours. Parents can think that it's hurtful to give a child consequences, but it's actually more hurtful not to.

These parents are depriving the child of the opportunity to learn from their mistakes and to correct their behaviour. In combination with a lack of limits, the absence of consequences causes a child to grow up without a sense of right and wrong, or a sense of remorse for having behaved badly. Parents do their kids no favours when they're in denial of their child's capacity for behaving badly.

Parents need to stop idealizing their children. They need to see that even their precious darlings are capable of behaving badly, and that it's their job to guide these children onto the right path in life. If parents remain this state of denial, their children are deprived of of this guidance. They fail to instill proper morals, ethics, compassion, empathy, kindness or self-discipline into the child. From the moment of birth, children are deprived of that which humans evolved to have - the prolonged nurturing natural to our species.

We - parents, community and government - are unwilling to make the commitment to our children that is their birthright. We bring children into the world - but do not accept our responsibility to be there to care for them.

In our lack of commitment to our children they are deprived of the human attachment that is their biological and genetic "expectation" at birth. We deny them the biological mothering experience that is the basis for human sociability and often, parcel their care off to strangers, who usually have even less of a commitment to them than we do.

Because our children are not our first priority, the best some of us can give them is "quality time". In a nation of individuals whose major priority is "me," we perceive caring for another, including our own children, as self-sacrifice and loss of self.

We seek more and better day-care centers but not the types of help that could enable us to stay at home to care for our children.

Nor does our government offer financial help, as other nations do, that allows at least one parent to be at home to care for their infant. The fact that new human life is not our first and foremost priority indicates that individual human life is not our primary value. The ways in which we respond to infants, even when we do value them, suggests that we do not know how to convey to them that they are valuable.

We are simply not friendly to the life we create. Our ways of caring for infants and children are actually sociopathic in that they are aggressively antisocial and asocial. It is common practice to force infants to spend long periods of time alone in their cribs, to sleep alone, and to ignore their crying, so that they will leave us alone and learn to accept being alone.

Spanking, hitting and punishing children are widely accepted methods for teaching children to behave. Sometimes no one can see that something is wrong except the people who are closest to her. Often her children can feel it, but that doesnt mean they understand it. There is one main feature that sets sociopaths apart from the rest of us. That one thing can be expressed in one word: conscience. Simply put, a sociopath feels no guilt. Because of this, hes freed up to do virtually anything without having to pay any internal price for it.

A sociopath can say or do anything she wants and not feel bad the next day, or ever. Along with a lack of guilt comes a profound lack of empathy.

For the sociopath, other peoples feelings are meaningless because she has no ability to feel them. In fact, sociopaths dont really feel anything the way the rest of us do. Their emotions operate under a very different system, which revolves around controlling others. If the sociopath succeeds in controlling you, he may actually feel some love for you. The flip side of that coin is that if he fails at controlling you, he will despise you.

He uses underhanded means to get his way, and if that doesnt work, hell bully. If that fails, hell retaliate by trying to hurt you. Having no conscience frees up the sociopath to use any underhanded means to get her way. She can be verbally ruthless. She can portray things falsely. She can twist others words to her own purposes. She can blame others when things go awry. Its not necessary to own her mistakes because its much easier to blame someone else.

The sociopath has discovered the value of playing the victim and plays it like a virtuoso. Yes, sociopathic parents are the most pain-inducing kind of emotionally neglectful parent.

Yet they are, in many ways, the most difficult for the child to see. Because, as I said above, they do know exactly how to hide. Few parents fail to notice or respond to their childrens feelings the definition of Childhood Emotional Neglect in a more thorough or twisted way than the sociopathic one.