Does anyone hate their children

Victoria Elder and Morgane, her year-old daughter. Daymon Gardner. Yet brutal candour is required, says Augustine Brown, if mothers are ever to be seen as independent of their children. And this is where the subject of regret introduces a radical new twist in the mother plot: It introduces the notion that mothers can exist autonomously from their children.

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In my psychotherapy practice, I have noticed that depression often occurs when a woman is trying not to repeat her mother's mistakes but discovers that it's not as easy as she thought. This disparity between daydreams and reality, along with some of the overwhelming demands of parenting, can lead to confusion, anger, sadness, anxiety and depression in the best of moms. The pandemic has in many cases just brought these feelings into sharper relief. One manifestation of these feelings is women who are unhappy about being mothers and who dislike their children, at least some of the time.

Psychological problems arise when they believe that these feelings are wrong and try to ignore them. Instead, it would be more useful for them to understand that these feelings are a normal and even healthy part of parenting.

Learning to tolerate negative feelings without always acting on them is a difficult yet important aspect of human relationships.

Parents who grasp this dynamic can be good role models for children learning to handle their own anger. And becoming comfortable with a range of emotions allows greater access to a richer, more complex relationship with children as they grow into adulthood. Part of the problem for many mothers is that their idealized vision of Motherhood with a capital M makes it hard to admit to any second thoughts about their decisions to have children.

According to society, and frequently their own beliefs, women are supposed to love their children and take pleasure in being moms at all times. But what's lovable about a temper-tantruming toddler, a whining 5-year-old or a hostile adolescent? And who in their right mind enjoys cleaning up a child's poop? They're 12 and nine and they are so disrespectful to adults. I try so hard to raise them well and I get treated horribly. I just took away all their toys and said they may be no Christmas this year.

I really hate my kids. When they are being unbearable, I go to my room and flip them off through the door and think really horrible thoughts. I really hate to admit this but I hate my children. I feel like they've trapped me in a life that I never wanted. I can't remember the last time I was happy. I really resent and am starting to hate my kids. I'm thinking of sending them to their father so I never see them again.

They don't seem to appreciate how good they have it. Sometimes I hate my son. Since the divorce he goes out of his way to rebel against me in favour of his dad. The harder I try to fight the more hopeless I feel. Have I failed?

Sometimes I hate my kids. They ruined my relationship with their father. Things were going so great before they came along. I secretly hate my children, they bring me nothing but torment. It scares me that I could run away and be perfectly okay with leaving them behind.

I hate my son. He is selfish, lazy, and blames me for him not being successful but isn't willing to try at anything. I can't wait for him to move out. If feel guilty for feeling this way. HT Whisper. More: The worst decision you can ever make is to have a child, according to science.